Woman praised for telling in-laws their dog is not as important as her child
Plenty of animal-lovers refer to their pets as ‘fur babies,’ but a family has reached breaking point because one couple see their dog as being on par with an actual child.
A woman on Reddit has shared how her in-laws dote on their dog, Bella, to the point where they’ve lost friends over her.
The in-laws have struggled to have a baby, so see their dog as a child.
Meanwhile, the woman and her husband had a young daughter and conceived around the time her brother and sister-in-law were trying to have a baby.
A week after announcing their pregnancy, the couple adopted their dog.
Immediately she was all they talked about and they refused to go anywhere without her.
‘We used to be close but this has ruined our relationship with them.
‘My husband and his brother don’t hang out anymore because my BIL is so obsessed with Bella that it’s hard to talk to him.
‘We even stopped our weekly family dinner because Bella barked non-stop, pulled food off the table, bit, etc. She is a nightmare. Furthermore, my husband has allergies and can’t be with her for more than an hour anyway.
‘BIL and SIL call Bella “first grandchild” or “[their] first daughter”, which annoys me because my daughter is those things – not a dog.’
Clearly, there is a sensitive issue here, as the in-laws see their dog as a way for them to start a family and have ‘kids’.
The poster continued: ‘They think my daughter and their dog should be treated equally and feel upset when they aren’t treated the same.
Even when I gave birth and people reached out to check on me and my daughter, they still sulked and posted a long post on FB saying how heartbroken they were that no one did the same for them when they adopted their dog.
‘I’ve been biting my tongue about it for over a year because I knew they were dealing with an incredibly painful situation, but this week I finally failed.’
Two couples recently received invitations to a family wedding, and while the child was invited, Bella the dog was not.
On Sunday, when my husband and I were about to leave his parents’ house, I heard BIL say that if his dog wasn’t invited, my daughter shouldn’t come either. “Why would they take her if we can’t take Bella?”
‘They always say things like that, but this time I finally snapped and said: “Because Bella is a dog, and my daughter is a real human baby. My child and your pet are not the same.”
‘We left, but then my BIL called my husband to say I had really hurt them and made my SIL cry. My husband said I shouldn’t have said anything and should have taken it back.
‘I know their dog is like their child, and I don’t mean to be cruel or insensitive, but I am also so tired of hearing them compare my daughter to a dog, and I don’t want her to grow up around people who think she is equal to a poorly behaved animal.’
Now, she’s worried she’s been ‘insensitive to their struggle with infertility’.
However, people in the thread commented that the in-laws need help to work through that mentally, rather than acting like their pet is a human.
‘Your in laws need therapy. I get, especially for child free people, their pets are their “children” but to pretend that a dog is the same as a human and expect everyone to play along is deranged,’ one person wrote.
Another said: ‘My cats are my babies. I love them. I would run into fire for them.
‘But they are cats. They sh*t in a box. They are five and six but I can’t send them to public school, because they are cats. I don’t expect them to be invited to weddings, because they are cats. Yeah, these people are bonkers.’
Someone else added: ‘They’re pouring all that frustrated love into the dog, and it’s leading to conflict with the humans in their lives. They def need therapy.’
Saying what many of us are thinking, ‘I’m really having a hard time believing the details in the story,’ one person wrote, ‘But good lord if this story is even 70% reality and still 30% hyperbole, than that is absolutely awful.’
Plenty of comments suggested therapy.